Longing and despondency what to do. From constant sadness. Despondency in modern society

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The sinful spirit of despondency, from time to time, covers (with rare exceptions) the soul of every person. despondency, in literally words, poisons life, sometimes throwing up dangerous suicidal thoughts ... This terrible spirit must be fought at the very beginning of its appearance.

One Orthodox woman asked the following questions:

E there is a desire to go to another world. How to get out of this state? Is it possible to mourn without being discouraged? How to get rid of despondency?

Archimandrite Ambrose (Fontrier) answers:

"H In order for this desire to be saving, you need to prepare your soul, because with a dirty soul you will only go to hell. We still need to work here on earth in the sweat of our faces, to serve the Lord God. It is necessary to constantly improve spiritually... In the meantime, the state in which we are now does not correspond to the Kingdom of Heaven. Without being corrected here, we will not be corrected there either, and nothing unclean enters into the Kingdom of Heaven. As we are, we will remain as we are...

If, however, we have reached such perfection that we no longer have anger, irritation, resentment, or jealousy, we are in love for God and our neighbor, then there is no reason for us to flee from this world. It is time for our souls to rest. Such a soul does not strive to pass into that world, it is aware of its imperfection.

Sometimes it happens that a person will live a long life - 90-100 years. Already and physical strength no, he doesn't die. This is because, perhaps, there are unrepentant sins, the soul is not ready for paradise, and the Lord desires salvation for this soul. That is why there is no death for this soul. So do not rush to leave this world.

Is it possible to mourn without losing heart?

- Despondency is a mortal sin. Behold, your relative has died, it will be natural for you to mourn for him. But one cannot go far into this state, because after a long and intense sorrow, despondency begins. Here, one of our mothers is calling, saying that she is in great sorrow - her sister has died. I told her: “Well, mourn a little, but there is no need to fall into despondency. If it didn’t beat - it didn’t break, then where would everything go? All people are born and die."

My mother died in my arms. I communed her, and after an hour she left, I sat next to her. Well, why would I cry? I know that she died with repentance, after communion - on the contrary, we should rejoice that a person has suffered, tormented himself here on earth. Some might think: "What a cruel heart he has!" Of course, there was sorrow, but he reasoned that it was better to rejoice at her good death than to cry.

- How to get rid of despondency?

- Usually, if a person does not have a prayer, he is constantly depressed. Especially among the proud, those who love to condemn their neighbor, to take him to pieces. You tell such a person that this cannot be done, despondency torments, but he does not understand. He wants to be the boss, stick his nose into every hole, know everything, prove his case to everyone. Such a person sets himself high. And when it meets a rebuff, then there are scandals, insults - the grace of God leaves, and a person falls into despondency.

Especially often in despondency is the one who is not repentant of sins - his soul is not reconciled with God. Why does a person not have peace, rest and joy? Because there is no repentance. Many will say: And I repent!» Repenting in words, in one language is not enough. If you repented that you condemned, thought bad things, then do not return to this anymore, just as in the words of the Apostle Peter: "the washed pig again goes wallowing in the mud"(2 Pet. 2:22).

Do not return to this mud, and then the soul will always be calm. Suppose a neighbor came up and insulted us. Well, bear with him. After all, you will not lose weight and will not grow old from this. Of course, it is bad for the person who for a long time he built up his own worth, created a high opinion of himself, and suddenly someone humbled him! He will surely rebel, be dissatisfied, offended. Well, such is the way of a proud man. The humble believes that if something was said to him, it means that it should be so ...

Our Christian way is not to speak badly about anyone, not to anger anyone, to endure everyone, to bring peace and tranquility to everyone. And always be in prayer. And on your evil tongue impose penance, say to him: “All your life you've been talking - now enough! Get down to business - read a prayer. Do not want? I'll make you!"

If despondency has just come, just begun - open the Gospel and read until the demon leaves you. Suppose an alcoholic wants to drink - if he understands that the demon has attacked, let him open the Gospel, read a few chapters - and the demon will immediately leave. And so any passion that a person suffers can be conquered.

We begin to read the Gospel, call on the help of the Lord - immediately the demons leave. As was the case with one monk. He prayed in a cell, and at that time the demons obviously approached him, seized him by the hands and dragged him out of the cells. He put his hands on the doorposts and shouted: “Lord, how insolent the demons are – they are already dragging them out of their cells by force! The demons disappeared in an instant, and the monk again turned to God: “Lord, why don’t You help?” And the Lord says to him: “And you don’t contact me. As soon as you applied, I immediately helped you..

Many do not see the grace of God. There were different cases. One man kept murmuring that the Mother of God, the Lord did not help him in anything. One day an angel appeared to him and said: “Remember, when you were sailing on a boat with friends, the boat capsized and your friend drowned, but you remained alive. Then the Mother of God saved you; She heard and heeded your mother's prayers. And now remember, when you were riding on a britzka and the horse pulled to the side - the britzka turned over. A friend was sitting with you; he was killed, and you survived". And the Angel began to cite so many cases that had happened to this man in his life. How many times death or trouble threatened him, and everything carried past him ... We are just blind and think that all this is accidental, and therefore we are ungrateful to the Lord for saving us from troubles.

The world is now such that everyone has heard of such a problem as depression.

Not everyone knows what it is, from their own experience, but problems bad mood, emotional downturn familiar to everyone.

One way or another, a resident of the Earth in the 21st century asks the question: how to overcome depression, despondency and melancholy?

depression is mental illness disturbing mental, emotional, physiological state person. It is also defined as an affective syndrome, that is, a disease that deforms emotional sphere personality.

By the beginning of the 21st century, depression comes out on top among the most common diseases.

It is believed that this is a disease of the 20th and 21st centuries, and this is true. It gained mass character at this time.

But, even the ancient Greek physician Hippocrates described the disease of a person with similar symptoms. In his terminology, this disease was called melancholia.

Hippocrates associated the causes of the disease with lifestyle, various life situations, lack of certain elements in the body.

Longing is characterized as an emotional, anxiety state person, accompanied by a feeling of sadness and boredom. Usually, in a state of melancholy, a person seems to fall out of the present, concentrating on the past or future.

Dejection is defined in Christian religion as one of the deadly sins. Despondency is characterized as oppressive boredom, disappointment in everything, depression.

Both sadness and despondency are symptoms of depression.

Types of depression

Many types of depression are known to modern doctors, depending on the criterion for their classification.

Causes of depression are:

• exogenous - the cause is in the external situation;
• endogenous - causes internal state person.

According to the nature of the symptoms of depression are divided as follows:

• Smiling.
• Tearful.
• Grumbling.
• Aching.
• Gloomy.
• Depression with a "feeling of insensibility".
• Anxious.
• Anxious and agitated.
• Agitated.
• Hidden depression.

Risk factors

There are several groups of risk factors:

Lifestyle related:

• Alcoholism and drug addiction.
• Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.

• Elderly age.
• postpartum period.
• Stopping or starting medication.
• Mental trauma.
• tragic events.
• Conflicts.
• Criticism.
• Autumn-winter period.

Physiologically related:

• Heredity.
• Traumatic brain injury.
• Various neurological, endocrinological, oncological, infectious diseases.
• Lack of any elements in the body.

John's wort is known for its antidepressant effects. John's wort preparations for depression are described.

Symptoms

Symptoms of depression are divided into typical or major and additional symptoms. To diagnose depression, doctors rely on this list.

Main symptoms:

1. Depressed mood for two weeks or more, when there is no apparent reason for this.
2. Feeling of fatigue, loss of strength, and sometimes complete impotence for a month.
3. Anhedonia. This word Greek origin, which means the denial of pleasure. For a person, this manifests itself as a lack of joy and enthusiasm, even for those things that have always brought pleasure.

Additional symptoms:

Manifested in a general pessimistic mood, depreciation of one's life experience As a result, low self-esteem is formed.

There comes a feeling of uselessness, demotivation, inability and unwillingness to decide something, and even more so to act. A person does not leave fear and anxiety.

Symptoms appear at all levels of human life: emotional, cognitive, behavioral, physiological.

Emotional:

• Bad mood.
• Despondency.
• Sadness.
• Yearning.
• Tearfulness.

Cognitive:

• Dark thoughts.
• Slow thinking, understanding.

Behavioral:

• Apathy.
• Blues.
• Demotivation.
• Shackled movements.
• Slow action.

Physiological:

• Bad feeling.
• Vital sensations (sensation of real pains, for example in the heart).
• Sleep disturbance.

Complications

• Phobias of various nature.
• Relapses.
• Suicide.

Depression, taking possession of a person, extends to all spheres of his personality.

Understanding the cause of sadness

Sadness is one of the human emotions. The appearance of sadness is normal, everyone experiences this feeling from time to time.

Sadness even gives life its charm. But everything is in moderation. If the feeling of sadness comes too often and for a long time, then this should become alarm signal both for the saddest person and for those around him.

The first step in solving the problem should be to understand the cause of sadness. You need to understand yourself, life circumstances and try to answer the question: What makes me sad?

The reasons can be very different, they can be obvious, or they can be hidden and incomprehensible, both for others and for the person himself. There are objective reasons: separation, parting, conflicts, difficult memories, unpleasant events. In this case, sadness is a normal reaction.

If objective reasons if not, then try to analyze all aspects of your life. Just sort through those life roles (mother, daughter, professional, student, etc.) that you have to play, fix your attitude towards them. Does what you demonstrate outwardly, while playing a certain role, correspond to your inner feeling?

Does the reality you live in match your aspirations and dreams? Do you enjoy what you are doing? Are you doing it out of a “want” urge, or out of a “must” urge? Compare the number of things that make you happy and those that you do, forcing yourself to do it. Try to understand why you are drawn to be sad. Is there any benefit to you in this? Sadness is a good excuse for inaction. Isn't that the reason for your sadness?

The appearance of sadness is not a reason to turn to a psychologist. But, to understand the reasons, when they are not obvious to yourself, it is better with the help of an experienced psychologist or psychotherapist.

Traditional treatment

Traditional treatment for depression includes pharmacotherapy, psychotherapy (behavioral, cognitive, interpersonal) and social therapy.

Pharmacotherapy is a treatment with medicines and is prescribed only by a doctor.

You cannot prescribe the drug yourself or on the advice of friends, as you can further aggravate the situation.

Treatment is carried out in the form of monotherapy, that is, one drug and combination therapy when the doctor, depending on the condition, selects several medicines.

All drugs for the treatment of depression are divided into three groups, depending on the effect they produce:

1. Psychostimulants are prescribed in the presence of symptoms of lethargy, apathy.
2. Thymoleptics (timoleptics from the Greek words "thymos" - mood, "leptic" - take to perceive), that is, improving mood, are prescribed for feelings of melancholy.
3. sedative-thymoleptic or just sedatives, prescribed for anxiety, irritability.

Psychotherapy - treatment aimed at working with the soul of a person, his inner world and regulation of somatic, behavioral, cognitive state.

Psychotherapy includes:

• Behavioral therapy aimed at regulating human behavior, adapting it to social conditions.
• Cognitive psychotherapy is aimed at working with self-awareness and thinking of a person. There is a reconfiguration of mental activity with negative thoughts to positive ones. The ability to see the good, tune in to it, live here and now is being formed.
• Interpersonal therapy is a treatment aimed at regulating the relationship of a person with his environment, since it is close people and relationships with them that can most affect a person. Provoke not only temporary experiences, but also bring to a state of depression.
• Social therapy - work with the patient and his environment. In addition, to enhance the psychotherapeutic effect, art therapy (treatment with the help of art), music therapy, aromatherapy, light therapy, acupuncture, meditation, magnetotherapy, electroconvulsive therapy are used.

Modern pharmacology provides a huge selection of drugs with a diverse spectrum of action. When choosing a medicine, you must always consult a doctor. But the most important thing is the desire of a person to cope with depression and return to the life of a happy person.

Folk remedies

As a sedative and uplifting drug ethnoscience advises St. John's wort, Chinese magnolia vine, motherwort, mint, valerian root.

St. John's wort is considered a remedy that best improves mood and treats mild forms of depressive nature.

All herbs can be brewed as tea and drunk. But they do not give an immediate effect, the treatment must be long and consistent. When using herbs, you need to control the intake of medications, especially be careful with St. John's wort.

Prevention

The feeling that in life a person does what he has an inclination and vocation protects very well from depression.

Standard methods that serve as a preventive measure for any illness, and in case of sadness, melancholy, despondency, depression will be relevant. This is the observance of the daily routine, healthy sleep, complete and healthy eating, physical activity.

The ability to be grateful for what you have, the ability to empathize and help other people, to live here and now, not sad about the past and not worried about the future, will protect against depression.

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Alexei Ilyich Osipov, Doctor of Theology, Professor of the Moscow Theological Academy, answers.

We need to understand what humility is. Humility is that inner feeling of a person in the face of the vision of his sins, but most importantly, the vision of the inability to cope, to eradicate. Here, for example, how would I eradicate envy, I wonder? I tell myself: "That's it, I won't be jealous." And suddenly I saw that he had a better car than me. Who will bear it? Show me this. It's unthinkable! For example, they awarded my best friend, not me. He, of course, is a friend, but I know that I am more worthy. Well, or at least that both of us would need. No, this is unthinkable, my soul cannot endure.

That's when I watch myself, when I see, I know that this is not good. I know? I know! But I can't! This is where self-knowledge comes from. Self-knowledge arises. Here, it turns out, who I am. That's what my bag is stuffed with, this inner one that no one sees. Do you hear what it's full of? So I begin to see what I have. I can't clear it. And here, if a person sincerely turns to God, then the Lord not only helps him to struggle with these things, but in the end can heal him from it altogether. One thing you need to know is that this healing happens to the extent of really the depth and sincerity of my awareness and my desire to get rid of it. You hear? The hand of humility gives gifts of grace to man. All those who have achieved dispassion have achieved just that.

Approaching main point question. When a person turns to God with sincere prayer, then not only will there be no despondency, but on the contrary, there will be joy. The Lord can give joy, great or small, it doesn't matter. The Lord gives consolation, peace to a person who sincerely turns to God. There can be no despondency.

Despondency, you know, occurs when? Do you know from what? From pride! How did I envy it again! I decided not to be jealous. How is it me? How did I not lift two hundred kilograms. Ay-ya-yay. I can do five hundred, but here I didn’t raise two hundred. That's where the sadness comes from. From pride, stupid pride. You need to know this, you just need to fight it, as with an enemy that approaches me and torments my soul. And then there will never be despondency with sincere repentance. There will be only relief, there will be only peace, only joy in the soul. // A.I. Osipov

Let me remind you that we will consider the problem of despondency from an esoteric and spiritual point of view (we will dig into the depths).

There are many reasons why a person can become discouraged, and in each case you need to look individually so that help in getting rid of discouragement is really effective. But there are always general patterns and the most common causes.

Despondency, as a rule, is preceded by apathy, and if despondency drags on, then it runs the risk of developing into. Let's start with definitions and get to the bottom of this unpleasant problem.

What is Despondency?

Esoteric understanding of despondency:

Despondency– loss of the Spirit, connection with one’s own and with the Higher (with God), a state in which the mind loses the ability to think, the soul decomposes from spiritual laziness, structures begin to disintegrate and the process of self-destruction of the personality takes place.

sad man – downhearted who has lost his faith (his core), life support and strength, who has lost the meaning of life. The one who refused to develop and fight for his soul and destiny, refused to search for answers and attempts to solve the problem (surrendered).

Some scriptures say that St. George the Victorious killed the discouraged and discouraged with his own hand with a sword right on the battlefield, because. considered despondency to be one of gravest sins, the essence of which is the betrayal of one's Soul, and hence God.

Despondency- this is primarily a spiritual problem, and its root causes must be sought not in the external world and events, but inside the person himself, in his erroneous beliefs, ideals, worldview.

Despondency is one of the main obstacles to human development, like pride, vanity and other mortal sins. In yoga, discouragement is also considered one of the main obstacles.

Other definitions characterizing Despondency:

From Wikipedia: Despondency (lat. acedia) is a negatively colored mood, a depressed state of mind, accompanied by a general breakdown. Severe despondency is characteristic of depression and may precede suicide.

Despondency is the gravest passion that can destroy the soul. The word "despondency" ("acedia" - from α - not and χήος - diligence, work) literally means - carelessness, negligence, complete relaxation, discouragement. This passion lies in the relaxation of all the forces of the soul and body, the exhaustion of the mind, laziness for everything. spiritual doing and to work, the abandonment of every Christian, saving feat, despair.

Rev. Ambrose Optinsky: Despondency means the same laziness, only worse. From despondency you will weaken both in body and in spirit. You don't feel like working or praying, you go to church with negligence, and the whole person weakens.

“Just as thieves at nightfall, having extinguished the fire, can easily steal property and kill its owners, so the devil, instead of bringing despondency to night and darkness, tries to steal all guarding thoughts in order to inflict countless wounds on a soul deprived of them and helpless” .

Science of Joy (Kora Antarova): Remember that joy is an invincible force, while despondency and denial will destroy everything, no matter what you undertake ...

Another simple description that I really liked: it is a state of mind arrogant people prone to when something doesn't work out for them.

Main Causes of Despondency

As religious people describe the causes of despondency:

A person gives himself up to a heavy spirit of despondency when he loses all hope in God (Faith). Despondency is a grave mortal sin that contains hidden blasphemy, distrust of God and resistance to God (pride,). From unconscious resistance to God, the soul comes to despair and impotence. Despondency is terrible because it leads to despair. Despair tries to finally destroy a person, moving him to. Despondency comes from different reasons, but is based on the mother of all sins - . The strongest reason for despondency is also impenitence in the accumulated, especially in difficult ones.

Despondency also comes from various reasons: from offended pride or from what is not being done in our own way; so also from when a person sees that his equals enjoy great advantages; from embarrassing circumstances that test our faith in God's Providence and hope for His mercy and all-powerful help. And we are often poor in faith and hope, and that is why we lose heart.

Esoteric Causes of Despondency:

1. or loss of faith above all faith in God. Loss of faith always leads to loss of connection with God, His protection and protection. And when the patronage of God is lost, a person (his Soul) is taken into circulation. In this case, you need to find out why the loss occurred, because of which Faith was destroyed, on what internal weakness the person stumbled.
2. Loss of joy and connection with your Soul. This happens for various reasons: disappointment in oneself, unforgiveness of oneself, or when a person has lost confidence in himself (lost confidence), non-recognition of his own sins (insincerity before himself) and unwillingness to repent.
3. Loss of the meaning of life, disappointment in or when there are none at all. A man without a goal is like a ship without sail and wind. The meaning of life is revealed to a person in the process of searching for his destiny, vocation. This is the answer to the question - Why was I born on this earth? Until a person has found at least some satisfactory answer, he may be prone to discouragement.
4. Disillusionment own control over their own destiny and the lives of others. This happens with powerful and proud people who are used to keeping everything in life under personal control, subordinating everything and everyone to personal power, only to their will. For such people, the most important thing is that everything is as they want. And if fate lays out the cards differently, then at the beginning such people are very nervous, furious, and when they realize that what is happening does not obey their only will and desires, they often become discouraged and depressed from impotence. In this case, you need to study.
5. The collapse of ideals, idols, idols. In other words, disappointment in someone or something. For example, you strongly idealized some person, authority, defending his infallibility, holiness, uniqueness, etc. before other people. And at some point you saw your idol with negative side, realizing that he was not a god descended from Heaven at all, but a common person with their weaknesses and vices. When false ideals collapse, a person almost always falls into disappointment and despondency. In this case, you need to shake off the fragments of false ideals, an illusory value system as soon as possible, so as not to be buried under them, and turn your tragedy into a victory, thanking God and fate for the shed Light and open eyes.
6. Spiritual laziness and irresponsibility for oneself and one's destiny. Spiritual laziness - unwillingness to make efforts to solve pressing problems, unwillingness to develop one's soul, get rid of shortcomings, achieve goals in life. - unwillingness to even admit that it is you who should solve these problems, by the efforts of your mind, your soul and will. Spiritual laziness is often the result of refusing to fight for one's soul, refusing strength and moving forward (from development). In this case, despondency and depression for a person are, which can lead him to insanity (loss of reason).

There are other reasons for despondency, which, as I wrote above, must be considered and removed individually in each case with or.

esoteric features. What strikes despondency?

As already mentioned at the beginning, despondency affects both the mind and soul of a person.

Despondency oppresses and blocks: for violating the principles of distinguishing between Good and Evil and Struggle (for refusing to fight, etc.).

Also, negative blocking effects are exerted on (irresponsibility, renunciation of power), on and (for a negative attitude towards oneself), in addition, despondency depresses a person’s individuality -.

First of all, we need to understand that we must cultivate the positive in ourselves when we are freed from despondency:

• Pure, like the bright creative power of your soul.
• as the ability to appreciate the Valuable that is given to us in life by God and fate.
• The meaning of life, corresponding to the destiny of the human Soul. If a person's goals do not correspond to his destiny, he may become discouraged.
• Formation of a true system of values ​​and ideals, where the Eternal, Spiritual values ​​are at the head.
• The real light is the ability to gladly accept what is happening, everything that is not subject to our own will.

It is also necessary to say that it is quite difficult to overcome despondency on your own, since in this state the human mind is affected, and in order to solve this spiritual task, it must be in working order. However, difficult does not mean impossible. If you have strong Soul and there is real Faith in God - you will succeed.

But the most effective method to overcome despondency or depression is to get outside help, preferably the help of a specialist who will quickly help you find the individual root cause of your problem, which is often karmic, rooted in past incarnations of the human soul.

Algorithm for working on yourself:

1. Reveal the most probable causes discouragement (see section Causes).
2. The next step is to deal with specific causes. You follow the links indicated and find on our website practical articles with techniques and methods, for example, how to remove disbelief or laziness. Make appropriate recommendations.
3. It is important not only to get rid of this or that disadvantage, but also to form a corresponding dignity. If disbelief was removed, Faith must be strengthened. If you got rid of irresponsibility, you need to form responsibility.
4. When the main cause of despondency is eliminated, all the others need to be worked out. Because it is not a fact that after a while you will not step on the next rake.
5. And in order to be guaranteed to forget from such phenomena as apathy, despondency and depression, you need to start the process in your life and soul continuous development and growth. So that development and work on yourself become your way of life, so that step by step you rise closer and closer to God, to the Light, to your highest destiny.

And if you decide that you need the help of a mentor or healer in solving such problems -! I can recommend you good specialists for individual work.

It grabs us imperceptibly. A stupid feeling of longing for the departed. This is not a banal nostalgia that passes like a runny nose. No, this is the destructive, destructive influence of past memories, events and people. How to get rid of longing, sadness, the past?

Such negative emotions how constant depression, sadness and deep sadness, longing in the soul cause a person to feel hopelessness and incredible self-pity. I want to constantly shed tears, complain about my unfortunate fate and arouse sympathy.

Today, many people know for themselves what it means to fall into depression and feel aching sadness and longing in the soul. Permanent depression is a serious mental disorder, although many take it for granted in modern life and are treated with special antidepressants. But these negative emotions cannot be cured with the help of pills, their presence indicates serious problems and an internal breakdown of a person.

In a state of depression, a person, as a rule, feels very depressed, he is overcome by sadness and melancholy and sad thoughts, a person tends to feel sorry for himself, he feels total loneliness and his misunderstanding by others, he does not even want to move. A person who is depressed by longing and sadness can eat sweets (or drink alcohol) in order to somehow brighten up a bleak state. He can be tormented by bleak thoughts about how bad everything is, sometimes leading to thoughts of suicide.

Fall into deep sadness and depression a person can for various reasons: if a misfortune happened to him or someone close to him, problems at work, because of gloomy and cloudy weather, after watching a sad movie or just like that, longing will take over and roll over his soul.

Depression and eternal longing in the soul are dangerous for a person, they not only reduce his vitality and spoil his mood, but also constant depression and sadness threaten the appearance serious problems with health. Apart from gastrointestinal disorders from constant dissatisfaction with oneself and life, heart problems from tormenting experiences and longing, insomnia from heavy thoughts, problems with musculoskeletal system from unwillingness and fear to develop and move forward in life, constant depression also contributes to the emergence of dependence on any means of escaping problems (alcohol, drug addiction, food). Also in the last resort- leads to a complete unwillingness to live, a feeling that a person is dying of longing.

Why is there sadness in your heart?

Of course, you should not blame external circumstances for the occurrence of your depression and deep sadness. There are many reasons for these negative emotions, and they all lie not in external stimuli(which are only an excuse), but inside the person himself. Of course, the reason to be sad is not in rainy weather outside the window, not in a quarrel with a loved one who poured water from head to toe on a passing car, turmoil at work, or an unexpected pimple that popped out on his face. After all, someone easily perceives such "little things in life", and for those prone to a state of depression and longing, this is the greatest tragedy in life.

Like many other negative emotions, depression, sadness, melancholy and sadness appear in us as a result of certain past events, as a response to past grievances, psychological trauma, lack of attention and love. From birth, we accumulate information from adults about what is "good" and "bad", we remember their reaction to certain events, we copy emotions. If adults in the family perceive any life changes as a problem, their child with very likely will also learn to react and fall into anguish at any obstacle that arises.

"Everything is bad..." Where do we get such attitudes from?

Also great importance relates to others around us: if a child is not loved, they are often scolded, especially using rude words (such as "fool!", "Stupid!"), Demonstrate in every possible way that we are unworthy of love or must carry out some assignments for this and adult tasks - depression and sadness will become defensive reaction unloved child to such indifference.

But depression, sadness in the soul and deep sadness that rolls over us from time to time - this is not the real us. These negative emotions are a kind of automaton that works in us every time. We get used to reacting this way, to perceive everything that happens as a problem. All previous life served as a pretext for the accumulation of such automata within us:

negative attitudes fixed in us (“everything is bad”, “life is a difficult thing”, “this is a difficult problem”, “you can’t do it”), which we receive more often from relatives;

events of the past, when we were no longer ready to calmly accept them (for example, parting, unhappy first love, deuce at school, for which we were strongly scolded) and all the conclusions drawn as a result of them;

the dislike of loved ones, which we turned against ourselves ("I'm not handsome", "fat");

patterns of response and behavior that we have adopted from others (oohs and sighs, tears, cautionary tales with unhappy endings, sad movies, sad songs).

To get rid of depression, deep melancholy, sadness at heart and your endless sadness on your own, you need to go through a serious path and go to such personal deposits of mental material that is stored in our subconscious. Otherwise, it will not be possible to cope with depression. All of the above, as well as a lot of other material (it is different for each person, rough sketches are given here) - all this daily feeds the state of depression.

A person will not just die of longing and feel sadness in his soul. The reasons are in it. It is necessary to remove the charge from this material (otherwise, to deprogram the subconscious). After all, if you start extracting from memory episodes that were especially traumatic, you can feel the same pain as you once did, you will also want to cry, feel sorry for yourself. This confirms that the material has a charge and it awakens depression and longing in a person again and again. The only thing is that you need to be ready for long work, because a person saved up his negative long years and you can't just get rid of it. But this is quite realistic if you work for a total result and do not skimp. I wish everyone to know the joy of life, without tears, depression, sadness and sadness!

How to get rid of sadness:

1. Find reasons.

Think about what is causing or causing your discouragement. As a rule, this is a routine that we are forced to do at home or at work. And, accordingly, fatigue from total immersion in all this many small and again boring, routine, but, as it seems, necessary, not canceled and urgent matters. When, because of this routine, we do not see the goal and do not understand at all what and how. When, for some foreseeable period of time - 2 - 3 days, we do not see the results of our efforts, that is, we do not receive feedback from the work being done and immersed only in the process of work, this reduces motivation and plunges us into discouragement.

Sometimes, however paradoxical it may seem, the cause of despondency, on the contrary, may be complete relaxation. And hence the feeling of own uselessness, restlessness and often loneliness.

2. Find a solution.

In any case, think about what you can qualitatively change in your life regimen and in your lifestyle in general? Think also about how to do things that will radically reverse the situation. Those. if before that you were immersed in many things and worked without a break, then you need relaxation.

Need abrupt change conditions - vacation, a trip to the mountains, to the sanatoriums of Kislovodsk, etc. If, on the contrary, you toiled from idleness and uselessness, you need urgent involvement in some kind of vigorous activity- getting an appropriate job or two at once, new acquaintances, possibly new personal relationships, marriage or some kind of social activity, joining a group active people, an interest club, for example. In other words, you need to bring something essentially, qualitatively new into life.

Thus, if you carefully and consciously approach the consideration of this problem, then the solution will be found without the help of specialists. It is important here not to delay and not allow yourself to sink into a state of despondency for a long time. As in solving any other problems, the disease is easily overcome on early stages. Chronic despondency can turn into depression, which is considered one of the most difficult to treat conditions. And in this case, it is hardly possible to do without the help of a specialist - a psychologist or psychotherapist. So be careful and take care of yourself and your condition.

1. Remember how in childhood after an injection you were treated to something sweet - and your mood immediately rose? This will work even now! After all, from the sweet endorphin is produced in the body - the hormone of happiness. Buy a cake, pastry or just chocolate, pour some hot strong tea and relax in a comfortable chair. Such a pastime will cheer you up and give you strength.
2. Another way to get your dose of endorphin is exercise stress. go for a run, fitness, gym… This will not only cheer you up, but also help tone your muscles.
3. This method is especially relevant and popular for the weaker sex - this is shopping. If the funds do not allow you to buy a new thing, you can simply call your friends and have fun trying on a variety of outfits. It's great to go to a fancy dress store and see yourself in different looks.
4. If you are sad due to the lack of an interlocutor, a great option is to start pet. Whoever you choose, the animal requires care, participation and communication. If you are needed and loved, then the mood rises!
5. Well, perhaps the most effective and fun way to get rid of depression is sex. It will cheer up both you and your partner, give you a boost of energy for the coming day or let you fall asleep sweetly for the coming night - that's how it will turn out for someone.

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