How to cry. Tearing agents. What to do if you can't cry
First you have to get rid of embarrassment. Many people do not cry, even when it hurts a lot, because they are afraid that they will be judged, that they will think badly, they will laugh. Watch others and you will understand that only in childhood, drops from the eyes were something negative, in adulthood it is a means to achieve one's own, as well as a way to express real emotions. And there is nothing wrong with such manifestations.
Physical ways to bring tears
The easiest way to induce tears is not to blink. Hold your eyes wide open for a few seconds. The surface will begin to dry out, and drops from the tear streams will be a way to restore water balance. You can turn around and then pick up tearful eyes. But it's better to practice beforehand.
You can also cry from onions. It just needs to be sniffed or cut. This option is suitable for filming or theatre, real life the smell of this plant will give you away, so be careful. A similar way is menthol balm or "asterisk". Need to apply a small amount of on the skin under the lower eyelid. A strong smell will definitely cause tears, be very careful not to get this substance in your eyes.
Use special drops - natural tears. it safe way cause even hysteria. They will roll like real ones. But in order to realize this, you will have to move away for a couple of minutes to quietly drip them. You can buy such a remedy at a pharmacy, and it is important to follow the instructions for use.
You can also hurt yourself. Pulling hair out of the nose or eyebrows also provokes tearing. And this can be done in almost any atmosphere, and everything will seem very natural.
Moral Ways to Cry
To squeeze out a tear, you need to remember something terrible. Everyone has resentment, severe shock, the death of loved ones or something similar. Just play such a moment in your memory, and tears will well up in your eyes. Of course, it is not very pleasant to return to that time in memories, but if you really need it, then you can use it. Not everyone succeeds the first time, because the habit of hiding emotions gets in the way, so training in front of a mirror will not be superfluous.
And if you don’t want to think about unpleasant things in your life, think about films or literary heroes that shocked you. Images from childhood especially evoke a reaction. For example, a picture about how Gerasim drowned Mumu can touch the heart and help in the implementation of the plan.
But the most important thing is not just to play tears, but to be sincere so that people around believe. Therefore, look for something bad in the circumstances around, take a closer look, and perhaps the tears themselves will begin to flow without special impact.
Not only women and children are especially vulnerable, young men often cry in a critical situation, especially those who are in adolescence. This is due to the fact that, for example, teenagers still cannot come to terms with the fact that they are losing control over some situations that did not exist in their past. Tearfulness can be the result of stress accumulated over the years, or a shock experienced in the recent past. In any case, the owners of such a reaction to problems, running tears, cause only trouble. There are several ways to quickly deal with emotions and calm down.
Instruction
a) inhale air through the nose and exhale also through the nose;
b) inhale through the nose and exhale through the mouth;
c) inhale and exhale through the mouth;
d) Inhale through the mouth and exhale through the nose.
You need to do at least five minutes.
All ways to solve the problem with excessive emotional reaction and tears are very effective. Although not achievable in relatively short time, but in order to make your life, if not easier, then calmer, you should not spare a few free evenings and do self-improvement.
It is known that women are more emotional, which, however, helps them avoid nervous breakdowns venting your emotions. It may seem that these emotions are spontaneous, but in reality this is not always the case. The manifestation of real emotions is not always an aesthetic spectacle - a mouth wide open in a scream, furiously bulging eyes, a reddened face. The appearance of a lady is also unattractive when she cries for real. Many aesthetic women have learned to cry on purpose and not look repulsive at the same time.
Instruction
If tears are an instrument of manipulation, then the reaction should be taken into account. For some, a completely theatrical scene with rolling eyes and wringing hands will suffice. A tear has not yet had time to roll down from the eyelashes, and he is already ready for anything, if only you do not. In front of someone you have to try and sob convulsively all evening, having achieved your goal with considerable work and a reddened nose. And someone crying for no particular reason in any form just starts to enrage and you run the risk of being left without - at the first sign of tears, he will simply run away. Therefore, it is important to choose the right audience.
The emotionality of a woman allows her to really experience an imaginary event. Take advantage of this gift. To specifically, imagine or remember something offensive or painfully perceived. Practice in front of a mirror like actresses do. Try a scene with eyes wide open (they will start to water). naturally if you don't blink for a while). See how tragically your eyes fill with tears, how tears begin on your eyelashes and, increasing, roll down your cheek. From such a spectacle, you will even feel sorry for yourself. Try a more difficult option, when tears roll down from under half-lowered eyelashes on the cheeks, but not on the tip of the nose.
Do not forget that cosmetics are on you today. If your cheeks are thickly covered with powder, and your eyes are covered with ordinary, non-water-repellent mascara, then you, crying, risk turning into a real witch with mascara smeared under your eyes and black tracks from it running down your cheeks. If at the same time the tears are immediately wiped with a prudently stocked handkerchief, then they will not be visible and the effect of such crying is zero.
And don't overdo it by calling in yourself bad memories to cry. You may become really so offended that you forget about your intention on purpose, and the process will go into an uncontrollable stage - with red, swollen eyes and nose.
In some situations, too much emotional people they cannot control themselves, which they regret very much later. Scientists have proven that the splash negative emotions, contrary to popular belief, negatively affects our physical and mental state, leaving behind a lot of complexes and psychological trauma.
"Adults cry tears.
Adults cry with their eyes.
Little ones cry with their hearts
The little ones are crying.
But if an adult cries like a little one,
So he's really crying."
Marik, 4th grade
(c) From the book by Mikhail Dymov "Children write to God"
Young children live each feeling completely, surrendering to it entirely.
If they are happy or happy, they jump, dance and sing for the whole house.
And if they cry, it is so bitter and inconsolable that the heart breaks.
At this moment, it seems that there is nothing worse and cannot be.
That this pain will never end, because in these moments the world consists of one pain.
And you cry and cry.
But that's how it comes out completely.
It strikes me over and over again.
You cry like this for half an hour, an hour or an evening, depending on the seriousness of the occasion - and lets go.
The next day I remember this and am surprised myself, yesterday I was only so acutely worried, but today I am calm and even cheerful.
We call it "quality crying".
As children, we all knew how to cry like that.
But parents often find it hard to bear.
Because in such moments it is important to stay close, but to allow the child to express his feelings.
The parent also feels the pain and despair of his child and the impotence to do anything to help. It's difficult.
Therefore, most often children are gagged, stopping the natural release of pain:
- Well, don't cry.
- Stop crying.
- Here's some candy for you.
- I'll buy you another toy.
Or even worse:
- Shut up immediately!
- How not ashamed to arrange scandals on the street?
- What will people think? Disgrace your mother!
- No one will love such a capricious and whiny girl.
- Boys don't cry, are you a girl?
As a result of such prohibitions and threats, we lose an invaluable skill - to live feelings fully and immediately. And get rid of them.
Then they torment us for years, turning into depression, melancholy, depression, long grievances, psychosomatic illnesses.
How can you learn it again?
A few things are very important here:
- First, you need to cry about what you are really grieving about.
Often this is not what happened now, but just unlived childhood traumas - old wounds, resentment, anger, grief, pain.
It helps if you realize what exactly these tears are about - for example, about hurting the words of your husband or about an old quarrel with your father.
Second, cry to someone. This greatly facilitates the process and helps to live it much faster. Cry to someone who will just be there, hug, stroke, listen, bring some water, let your feelings be.
If there is no such person, it is important for oneself to become one.
One part cries and mourns, and the second is nearby. When it rolls, the crying one manifests itself more strongly, then you cry as bitterly as possible, stronger, fuller. When the sobs let go a little, the second one turns on - it brings water, tucks in the blanket. Shares feelings:
- You're in a lot of pain.
- You are very offended, angry, grieving.
- My poor, good, dear, how bad it is for you.
- I'm with you. You are not alone.
Thirdly, it is important to have inner permission for these feelings. Do not shut yourself up, do not stop, do not shame and do not blame. Understand that this is natural, it will pass. Tell yourself:
- You can be angry.
- Of course, it's terribly insulting.
- Cry, you will feel better.
- It's worth the tears, it's so bittersweet.
And gradually the ability to live feelings immediately and completely will return again.
And life will sparkle with new colors.
After all, along with the ability to live through pain and grief, the ability to rejoice to the depths of the soul, to be happy and satisfied even from small good things will return.
And this makes life full and rich.
It is often necessary to be able to act out a drama for a practical joke or for other purposes. Many in such cases mistakenly try to portray sobs without outside help, and rarely anyone succeeds in this believable. How to cry on purpose? Here several effective and proven methods. A working but impractical way is to sniff a freshly chopped onion. Tears will flow on their own. AT emergency situations this method is not feasible, because not everyone always has an onion and a knife at hand and, of course, time to prepare.
If you know exactly when you have to cry, you can take a menthol balm with you and apply it directly under the eyes at hour X (avoiding contact with them, of course, otherwise the cornea may burn). Perhaps you will have to cry a lot and often - then it is better to have a special bottle with slightly salted water, that is, with a kind of analogue of tears. To cry, it will be enough to drop more of these artificial tears into your eyes: they will soon roll out on their own and will look very believable. There are people who advise to drip citric acid in the eyes, but this will lead to nothing but irritation of the cornea. Another good way for an unprepared person - yawn many times. Yawning reflexively causes tears, but to achieve desired effect you need to yawn at least 10 times. Looking at one point, straining your eyes as much as possible, but not focusing on it, is also excellent and fast way cause tears. They, again, as in the case of yawning, will go reflexively.
Not less than effective option- touch the cornea bare hand, nail or finger. Be sure to keep them clean: dirty hands contact with the eyes can cause conjunctivitis, and it is unpleasant, tedious and long to treat. The method is not for the faint of heart - try to pluck the hair from your nose. There will be tears for sure, but they may also be accompanied by wild cries, yelling and swearing. . . You can pinch yourself with your nails at the very tip of your nose - this will definitely cause tears. A trick taken from the actors is to make a facial expression as if they were actually crying, then tears will roll from their eyes. It is better to combine this method with others, that is, first pinch yourself on the earlobe or put water in the eye, and then begin to portray crying.
For the most sensitive people the right way cause tears will remember something very sad, some kind of unpleasant situation, an unresolved conflict. A situation in which I felt very sorry for myself, in general. Then the tears will be the most sincere, if only to stop at the right moment, because too long sobbing over a trifling matter can raise doubts about their honesty. In the end, if the memory is already very unpleasant, you may not be able to stop, and sometimes you have to cry on the stage, where each action has a certain time allotted.
Speaking of the scene: if tears are required for a role, you need to cast aside your "I" and fully get used to the image to the smallest detail, survive the whole tragedy of the character. However, only truly talented actors succeed in this. . . If none of the options work, you can simply take a pillow or a handkerchief and, covering your face, sob a couple of times or lie face down in the pillow. You don't even have to cry, but it looks quite natural.
The ability to start crying at the right moment, as if by a wave magic wand comes easily to some, and becomes a universal torture for others. But if you are worried that you will have to resurrect and release the memories of the terrible moments of your life just to shed a few tears when the cameras or the eyes of the audience are focused on you, you should not. With a few quick tricks below, you can cry on cue at any time.
Difficulty: moderate.
1. Hold your eyelids open - use your fingers for this. We blink to moisten our eyeballs from the top and bottom lacrimal ducts otherwise the eyes dry up and this leads to extremely backfire and feelings. By simply holding your eyelids open and causing your eyes to become slightly dry, you will cause your tear ducts to rehydrate and form tears as the ducts try to regenerate. natural process hydration of the eyeball. When tears begin to flow, blink a few times and they should effortlessly begin to drip down onto your cheeks.
2. Drop a few eye drops in the eyes. It's an old Hollywood trick. If tears don't want to come naturally, just add them to your eyes. Here, be extremely careful with the choice of the drug: you need the most simple analogues tears, without any additives, for example, in the form of adrenaline - in the latter case, with constant use, this can cause serious violations health.
Right before the director says "Motor!" ask the make-up artist to squeeze a few "tears" into your eyes. As the scene progresses, let them roll into your face. Remember that even simple “tear substitutes” must be properly stored, used wisely (keep the bottle clean), cannot be used if they have deteriorated, cannot be shared with someone, this is extremely unhygienic.
3. Blow up from the corners of the lips towards eyeballs. This will help you cry on cue, as you will essentially quickly dry out your eyes and trigger the reflex response of the eye ducts again and make them go into action. Also, do not blink during this process.
4. Release a piece of your sensory memory. This is the most honest way to help you learn to cry on cue. There are no tricks here, since you have to sincerely feel the emotion that will lead to tears. think about terrible times that will make you experience bitterness, sadness, and other similar emotional states. Then just let the tears flow. Death, illness, pain - each of them will help you get to that emotion that will make you shed tears.
5. Apply something under your eyes that will physically make you cry. For example, menthol balm. But be extremely careful so that it does not get into your eyes in any case, as it can cause severe damage. Plus, balms are terribly shiny, which also needs to be remembered. Do not forget to also pre-test the remedy for an allergic and excessively long reaction in yourself and the actors that will be nearby.
Or smell, for example, an onion. Remember that if you smell like onions, few people will be happy about it.
6. Keep your eyes open - don't blink - and yawn heartily a few times at the same time. From tear ducts will drip, or at least your eyes will be very moist. Some actors cover their faces with their hands, yawning at this time, and raise their faces already in tears. But it takes practice, so it's not for everyone.
7. The Masochist Approach - Hurt yourself. Most viable option, according to practitioners - to tear out a few hairs from the nose. Or pull your hair. This is often not recommended.
8. The best actors are able to play a man with difficulty holding back tears - and this is the most effective option. So sometimes it's better not to cry at all, but to demonstrate the situation with a certain degree of honesty - to feel the hero. And then, if you do cry, it will be an indicator that you did everything right.
Some advise to observe crying people for a long time and carefully, note facial expressions, body movements, then learn and copy them. In fact, only a few succeed, because in the end it still looks unnaturalistic. AT this case you need to act not with the mind, but with the feelings.
