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How much do we spend on living in Israel?
21.12.2017
How much money per month is needed to live in Israel. Expenses on the example of an ordinary Israeli young family of three.
Hello everyone, my dear viewers. I am very glad to see you on my channel. Today I want to talk about how much we spend on living in Israel. I am often asked how much money is spent on certain expenses and how much you need to earn in order to live normally in Israel.
Firstly, it is very difficult for me to judge for everyone, because for one it is a normal life, for another it is chic, and for the third it is life from hand to mouth and counting pennies. Secondly, I do not know all the average data, how much money is spent on certain expenses in an ordinary average family. Therefore, I will use our example to give you some comparison about how much money is spent on certain expenses in a typical Israeli young family. And you already judge for yourself how much you need to earn, based on your requests and the concepts of a normal life.
We are a family of three, two adults and one child, we also have a dog. Our costs vary quite a lot every month, and we just ended 2016. Therefore, I decided to calculate our spending for 2016, that is, display the arithmetic average for the last 12 months, how much money we spent on average for each month of the last year.
One of the most basic expenses is an apartment. We rent a three-room apartment of 110 square meters and pay 2,700 shekels per month ($710) for it. Many may wonder why it is so cheap, now I will explain. Firstly, we have been renting this apartment for a long time and the owner of the apartment is very pleased with us as tenants, so he does not raise our rent. We pay for this apartment exactly the same as we paid for it 2 years ago. Secondly, we live quite far from the center, about 40 km from Tel Aviv, and prices in Israel grow in direct proportion to the proximity to the city center. That's why it's such a price.
Next are utilities. On average, we pay about 1400 shekels per month ($370). Of these: electricity - 620 shekels ($163), arnona - 400 shekels ($106), water - 100 shekels ($26). Gas - 60 shekels ($16), vaad byte - 100 shekels ($26) and internet - 120 shekels ($32) per month. If you want to learn more about all utilities, what and how we pay, what is arnona, vaad byte, follow the link to the video on this topic, I told everything in detail there [ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nNjXF92RiLM]. By the way, we usually receive utility bills every 2 months.
The next category of spending is mobile communications. We spend 90 NIS per month ($24). The next is food and household goods. That is, those things that we usually buy in supermarkets, plus I also count going to restaurants and cafes here, as well as lunches at work. We get an amount of 4850 shekels ($1280) on average per month. I can say that we do not deny ourselves anything in food, we completely save on food and we love to eat. You can definitely spend a lot less.
The next is shopping for the home, from all sorts of little things to furniture. Naturally, this category of spending is completely irregular and it happened that we did not buy anything for a long time or bought some little things, and it also happened that we bought furniture. If we calculate the average number, it turns out that in 2016 we spent 500 shekels ($130) per month on purchases for the house. The next is clothes. We spend an average of 500 shekels ($130) a month on clothes.
The next big category of spending is the car. I must say that in 2016 for us a personal car was a huge financial hole, because we mainly used Andrey's official car, and our car was just standing under the window, but you need to pay for it. What did we pay for the car? Compulsory and voluntary insurance cost us about 500 shekels per month ($130). We spent an average of 440 shekels ($115) per month on gasoline, because sometimes we refueled the company car at our own expense. I also wanted to say something about maintenance. Since we practically did not use our car, in 2016 we did not carry out an inspection. For general development, the inspection of our car costs 1150 shekels ($300) per year, approximately 95 shekels per month ($25).
The next one of the main expenses is a kindergarten. Our child is now 2 years old, so he goes to a private kindergarten, that is, to a paid kindergarten. Kindergartens become conditionally free only from the age of three. Our child started attending kindergarten regularly only six months ago, so I will tell you the average amount over the past six months. And so, on average, we pay 2,500 shekels ($660) per month. We also made a savings account for the child, which he will be able to use when he turns 18 years old. Every month, 200 shekels ($50) are transferred to his account from our salary.
On February 19, Israel celebrates Family Day. However, this holiday should not be confused with the International Day of Families, which has been celebrated around the world since 1993 on May 15th.
The celebration of Family Day in Israel is closely connected with the name of Henrietta Szold, who during the Second World War headed the Zionist organization Aliya Youth and thanks to whose efforts tens of thousands of Jewish teenagers in Germany, Austria, Poland and other European countries were saved from death. In 1952, on the 30th day of the month of Shevat according to the Jewish calendar, on the anniversary of the death of Henrietta Szold, Mother's Day was first established in Israel. Already in the late 80s of the last century, the holiday was renamed Family Day.
Yom ha-Mishpacha has become a truly significant holiday in Israel, because the family occupies a special place among the values of Israelis. Israeli families are usually large, close-knit and friendly. There is no place for rudeness and hostility. The Israelis attach great importance to balance and harmony in the family, which is achieved through a respectful attitude towards all relatives, and any disputes and disagreements are resolved peacefully, thanks to the desire and ability to hear each other.
The life of an Israeli family, first of all, is based on love, respect and mutual understanding. However, a hallmark of Israeli upbringing is the attitude of parents to each child as an individual from a very early age. Parents in Israel treat their children as full members of the family. From a young age, little Israelis are encouraged to develop self-reliance by giving them the right to choose food, clothing, and entertainment. Israeli upbringing, on the one hand, is not intrusive, but on the other hand, it forms in the younger generation a sense of responsibility for their choice and for their actions. Meanwhile, any form of violence against children is categorically unacceptable. Another feature of Israeli upbringing is that parents try to become not only authoritative mentors for their children, but also true friends, and, as practice shows, this approach allows maintaining good relations in the family for many generations.
At the end of last year, residents of Dnepropetrovsk had the opportunity to be convinced of this, as well as to learn from the useful experience of the Israelis. In November, the Israeli Cultural Center hosted an author's seminar "Family route with an Israeli accent." During three days, its participants learned a lot not only about families and the principles of raising children in Israel, but also about themselves, were able to discover their inner talents and find inspiration.
Many parents, thanks to the seminar, appreciated the importance of the educational process and work on themselves to achieve harmony in their families. The project participants decided to continue communication and after the end of the seminar and once a month they continue to gather together in the Dnepropetrovsk Israeli Cultural Center to consolidate the experience gained. The next meeting of the family route with an Israeli accent will take place on February 21 and will be dedicated to the theme of Family Day.
For more information about the activities of the Israeli Cultural Center in Dnepropetrovsk at the Embassy of the State of Israel in Ukraine, please call: 0563703205/6,
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is one of the main values. Marriage is considered a normal state of a person, and its absence rather indicates spiritual and physical inferiority. Unlike Christianity, Judaism does not associate celibacy with holiness; on the contrary, marriage is an ideal commanded by the Torah.
Marriages in Jewish society are still played according to established traditions. Marriage is preceded by matchmaking (shiduh), which consists in getting to know the young and their families. Very often, matchmaking is entrusted to a professional (shahdan), matchmaking is often initiated by the parents of one of the parties. If the matchmaking was successful, then a document (tnaim) is drawn up, which indicates the day of the wedding and lists all the material obligations that the parents of the newlyweds assume to organize and ensure the wedding. The wedding day itself is called "chupa" or "chupa day" (this is the name of the wedding canopy, under which the marriage ceremony takes place). The wedding begins with the signing of a ketubah, a document that lists the rights and obligations of a husband and wife, including the material obligations of a man in the event of a divorce. The document is traditionally written in Aramaic, which was spoken by the Jews in antiquity, but is also translated into Hebrew.
AT families of Israel the rights of a woman are quite seriously protected: for more than a thousand years there has been a ban on divorcing a woman if she does not agree; For more than two thousand years, there has been a custom to give a woman a ktuba at a wedding - a document that protects her interests in the event of a divorce. The ketubah lists in detail the dowry that is given for the bride. The husband has the right to use the dowry, but in the event of a divorce, he is obliged to return it in full, adding to it another third of its value (the so-called "third increase"). The ketubah must be signed by witnesses (not the relatives of the young, but third parties), it is also signed by the newlyweds. The ketubah is read by the rabbi after the groom puts the wedding ring on the bride's finger and then the ketubah is handed over to the bride.
If the family does not work out and it comes to a divorce, the man must hand over to his wife or her representative a special divorce document (get). Even if the divorce is initiated by the wife, the man must still give her this document, otherwise the wife will not be able to remarry. In addition, a woman does not have the right to remarry if her husband is gone, in which case she receives the status of "aguna" (connected).
Families in Israel considered one of the most peaceful and prosperous in the world. As a rule, in Israeli families it is not customary to raise your voice and overly emotionally solve problems. It is believed that any conflict can be resolved in a calm diplomatic way. Parents are an undeniable authority, they pass on to children all national and family traditions, instill the skills of proper behavior and education.
Regarding the relationship between a man and a woman in the families of Israel, then they are based on a certain degree of equality. Although a woman cedes to a man the right of the first and foremost in the family, the Israeli family value system is based on the fact that each of them has his own duties that the other could not fulfill, and all duties are equally important for the full functioning of the family.
According to Israeli traditions, there should be absolute spiritual and physical purity in the relationship between spouses. For example, at the moment when a woman begins her menstrual cycle, she is considered unclean and her husband should not touch her. This period, excluding the possibility of intimacy, begins on the first day of menstruation and ends with a special rite of purification. A woman should keep track of the time of the onset of menstruation and know exactly the day when the cycle will begin. After the end of menstruation, it is necessary to count seven days, after which the woman undergoes a rite of purification. After that, intimacy between the spouses is again possible. In addition, it is believed that if a child is conceived during the menstrual cycle or before the purification ceremony, that he will have a very bold and rude character. If the child was conceived on clean days, then he will definitely grow up as a kind and wonderful person.
There is a relationship in the families of Israel to the upbringing of children. Like any other parent, Israelis only want the best for their children. In addition to the actual upbringing of positive and good qualities in a child, in addition to developing his mind and striving for success, Israeli families also instill love and reverence for religion and for numerous national traditions, most of which have a very ancient history. Children should sincerely and with true love honor not only their relatives, but also the history, religion and culture of their people. Israelis do not belong to the category of parents who allow their children absolutely everything. Against, in the families of Israel children are kept in strictness and from an early age they clearly explain what is right and permissible, and what is not permissible.
Israeli society is not homogeneous. In general, it can be divided into two categories: secular and religious. Approaches to 
life and the upbringing of children in these two categories differ significantly. If the secular part of the Jewish people is more like Europeans in life guidelines and in the organization of living space, then the religious part of society - the Hasidim are very strongly oriented towards religion, towards the observance of all religious canons and rites, of which there are a great many in Judaism. For secular families in Israel the average number of children is about two, for religious families, as a rule, five or six. The average birth rate in the country is about three children per woman.
In Israel, in accordance with the needs of such a heterogeneous society, a rather complex education system has been created. There are three types of general education schools: religious, state-religious and secular. In religious schools, secular subjects are given to the discretion of the administration, religious education dominates, the Ministry of Education does not supervise such schools and does not issue diplomas. State-religious schools differ from the former in that they contain both religious and secular subjects in the same quantity, the Ministry of Education controls the activities of such schools, and certificates are issued in them. Secular ones, respectively, are mostly focused on secular education, religious subjects are presented to a minimum and are not mandatory, certificates are also issued. Schools, in addition, are divided according to the payment system. There are completely free schools - state, there are semi-state (parents partially participate in the payment), as well as private, tuition fees in which are fully paid by the parents of the students. The best education is given in paid schools. For additional education, there are also evening private schools with a different bias.
Kindergartens are free for children from three years old, the child can stay there until 13:00 - 13:30, that is, until lunch. Also in such kindergartens there is an extension until 16:00, but for an additional fee. Kindergartens up to three years old are paid, there are also private kindergartens where a child can stay full-time. The amount of payment for a municipal kindergarten is on average 9% of the average salary, while a private one can reach up to 30% of the average salary.
The Israeli family is considered the most calm and balanced family in the world, there is no place for rudeness, here no one will ever raise their voice to anyone. It is believed that in these families any issues can be resolved peacefully, the only way to achieve balance and ideal in the family.
The life of an Israeli family is based on respect, which they must pass on to their children as well. Parents should be an ideal for their children, their duty is to pass on all family and national traditions to their children. In addition, children need to instill the right character traits and for this you need to have certain skills and abilities in education.
As far as the relationship between men and women in the family is concerned, in an Israeli family, both spouses are equally important. Although a woman gives way to the role of the head of the family to a man, this does not mean that a man is somehow better or more important than a woman.
It is believed that everyone in this life has a role to play, both a man and a woman, and everyone in the family performs their own specific functions. The reason why a woman in Israel transfers power in the family to a man is just female modesty, although the woman herself is well aware that in some things she is much superior to the man.
A wise Israeli woman is well aware that she cannot fulfill all the duties of a man and cannot do without him, and the man is of the same opinion, knowing that he is not able to do all the work that a woman does at home and around the house.
Each person is important in his own place, otherwise nothing in this life will work out. Many men also understand that a woman works much harder and her duties are much harder, and no man can fulfill all these duties.
In an Israeli family, there should be no infringement of the rights of a woman, she has the right to act as she sees fit, but still she must consult with her husband. Between spouses in Israel, the purity of relations must be maintained, there is one vivid example of this, or rather, even a long-standing Israeli tradition, which refers to the feminine principle.
At the moment when a woman begins her menstruation, the woman is considered unclean and the man cannot touch her. This period starts from the very first day of menstruation until the day the woman is cleansed. The time when the menstruation cycle should begin should be known to the woman and strictly follow this time.
After the end of the menstrual cycle, the woman must count another seven days and undergo a rite of purification. Only then can an Israeli man touch his wife.
It is also believed that if a child is conceived on the days of the menstrual cycle or until the moment when the rite of purification is not completed, he will have a very rude and impudent character, and a child who is conceived on clean days grows up to be a wonderful and kind person.
A special attitude in the Israeli family to the upbringing of children. Like any other family, Israeli parents also want the best for their children.
They want their children to grow up to be kind and smart people, get a decent education, get a prestigious and well-paid job, so that their children achieve real success in life and in family affairs, and be respected and honored everywhere. However, this is not enough for Israeli parents, all this is not enough for their children to grow up the way they want.
Children in an Israeli family are brought up in love for their religion, and they must respect all the numerous national and religious traditions that have been laid down since ancient times. Children should be sincere and treat not only their parents and relatives with real love and tenderness, but also with the same sincere love they should fulfill all religious customs and honor their religion.
True, in order to bring up all this in children, parents themselves must live in strict order according to the customs and traditions of their religion and be an example for their children. It is impossible to say that all Israelis perfectly fulfill all the requirements, because sooner or later each person deviates a little from his path.
However, the task is to strive for self-improvement, and Israeli children should see everything their parents strive for and take an example from them. The desire to correct their life mistakes teaches children not to repeat the same mistakes that adults made.
Do not be afraid that children see the mistakes of adults, it is very useful for them to know what to avoid in life. In addition, you need to communicate very closely with your children in order to establish a very strong bond with them.
The most important traits that parents in Israel instill in their children are love, deep trust and fear. Love and trust are, of course, the most important positions to live by, trust in the family is of great importance, as well as love for everyone around you and for your family and friends.
Why is it necessary to instill fear in children? After all, this feeling cannot bring anything good. A child in Israel should be afraid of the consequences of his bad behavior, he should be afraid of the punishment that will follow after he has committed a bad deed.
Although parents in Israel try not to punish their children, still sometimes they need to be kept in strictness, otherwise they will grow up just spoiled and rude. Love in an Israeli family is absolutely necessary in the upbringing, because the lack of love can alienate a child from his parents.
If there is no trust in the family, this will also negatively affect the character of the child, and he will never be able to trust anyone in his life. All these feelings should also relate to religious traditions and customs.
All of the above suggests that the main thing in the Israeli family is still introducing children to religion and carrying this religion through their entire conscious life, in order to pass on all their knowledge to their children again after a certain time.
We came to Israel as a small family. Me, my husband and our two children. The daughter was six months old, the son was a year and 5 months old. No friends, no family. Slowly, they began to settle down, grow into society. The youngest took her first steps on the shores of the Mediterranean Sea, the son said the first word “mother” in Hebrew. Together with all survived two wars, terror. Caring for the family turned into caring for Israel.
But our real birth as Israelites began later, when the children got married. We played the first wedding Moroccan. The son chose a wife from a Moroccan environment. Among the 400 guests from the bride's side, all of us fit at a lonely table. We drowned among guttural exclamations, unceremonious behavior, glitter of jewelry. Numerous guests of the bride looked at us with frank childish curiosity. Our few friends and colleagues congratulated us with sympathy and hopelessness... The bride and groom didn't care. Both were bathed in the general merriment that emanated from the Sephardic milieu.
A year later, the last hope of finding matchmakers who were close in spirit collapsed. We doomedly played a second wedding. For daughter. She married a guy from an Iraqi family. Our table was just as lonely, but the audience was already an Iraqi-Moroccan mix. We no longer sat separately, but were, as it were, accomplices together with the Moroccan family. This time, the groom made friends with his son, and through them we somehow more smoothly blended into all this bedlam.
From a small modest family, we have become a real Babylon. We were united by a common language, our adult children and holidays. We spend every holiday together. Moroccan temperament, Iraqi instructions, Russian, already in some places, intelligentsia make our meetings noisy, unusual and productive. Each family brings their national dishes to the common table. We women try our best to outdo each other. Therefore, our table resembles an exotic exhibition of cuisines of the peoples of the world.
This holiday of Sukkot is no exception. We gathered in a chic sukkah built in common. The restraint of Russian Jews, Moroccan panache and strict Iraqi punctuality somehow came together. It turned out something very good, spacious, warm.
Men, as expected, pronounced a blessing. The conversation flowed over delicious food. Who lives how, what problems, requests, offers of help, advice ... Ordinary family conversations. There should be fun in the sukkah, so songs usually accompany dessert. The Moroccans are the first to start, the Iraqis join them... Uncertainly, we also join the common choir.
But everything is eaten and drunk. Heavy, with full bellies, the men settled down in the sukkah. The children scattered around the rooms, the guests in the salon. There is silence in the house. We, three women, three mothers, after cleaning and washing dishes, sit tired in a clean kitchen with cups of coffee. So different. Mentality, education, upbringing, character. But we are well aware that the world in our huge family depends on us. And this awareness makes our seemingly frivolous conversations very meaningful.
We share recipes for meals in case the kids come to visit. How can I cook what my son loves without considering my daughter-in-law's rather complex tastes? Therefore, Roni, mother of the daughter-in-law, explains in some detail how to cook stuffed artichokes so that her daughter will thank me. Then I hear from Sonya what my son-in-law loves. Then I tell them both how to make vinaigrette and Kiev cutlets. Then we decide that it is too difficult and let them eat what they are given in the house where they come.
Satisfied with our conspiracy, we begin to dream of future grandchildren. We distribute the queues, when and who will babysit them. Then we understand that after the distribution of the queues, nothing was left to their parents. The decision comes by itself. Mom and dad are more important to children than grandparents. Therefore, let them raise our grandchildren themselves.
The conversation smoothly turns to the situation in the country, to kindergartens and schools, to education and treatment. On the society in which grandchildren will enter and on the difficulties of children. We grieve for the kindness and responsiveness that were once in our youth. We remember the instructions of our forefathers, to live together as one family. We dream that everything can work out in the country through children. The children will mix like ours, and we will all unite in one family. We dream of glorious, strong Israel, in which there will be such relations that have now arisen in our kitchen. We decide that it is possible. The main thing is that we, mothers, women, want to do it.
It's not difficult at all. Especially when it comes to the happiness of children. It all starts in our relationship with each other. Best regards and willingness to help. From common holidays and common affairs. With simple steps like making Russian vinaigrette, or Iraqi kube, call and wish good night and good day. Listen and understand.
From such simple actions, our ties grow stronger. The family is getting stronger. Children in such families grow up healthy and happy. They will spread this virus of love everywhere.
And now we are sitting in the kitchen at half past one at night with a cup of coffee and sewing with our desires, dreams and care, a blanket that will cover our entire family with joy and warmth, save our men and children from quarrels and strife. Will warm all our diverse Babylon. It will make us one big family with a common language and common holidays.
