“When a person wants something, he looks for opportunities, and if he doesn’t want it, he looks for reasons.” If you are looking for reasons, then maybe you are just not ready to change yourself? Then I can't help you.

Often callers say: "I really want to lose weight, but..."- and a lot of arguments are given. Let's take a look at everything "but..." so stubbornly interfere with the implementation of plans for weight loss?
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“I really want to lose weight, but how hard it is to give up your favorite treats! After all, in our difficult life there are not so many joys ... "
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“I really want to lose weight, but I don’t have the time or energy to cook separate dishes for myself ...”
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“I really want to lose weight, but I have a whole “bouquet” of concomitant diseases, and I am afraid of even more harm to my health ...”
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“I really want to lose weight, but I don’t have time to go to a fitness club…”
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“I really want to lose weight, but I don’t trust different pills and capsules…”
There are no fat burners in the program. You will lose weight on how you eat, when and what. But a weakened body will be worse at giving away reserves. Therefore, simple vitamins are recommended during the program. This is a good restoration of strength and normalization of appearance. You do not want to look tortured and saggy after losing weight.

“I really want to lose weight, but without spending money on it ...”
You may not spend at all. After all, if we want to buy a car, we have different options. Get it as an inheritance, pick it up at a landfill and repair it (and the view is not very good and breaks often), buy it from hand (not new and without a guarantee) or buy a new one in a car dealership and with a guarantee.
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“I really want to lose weight, but then the weight will come back…” The program does not take into account overall weight loss, but fat burning. Getting everything you need and not starving, the body voluntarily gives up fat. Therefore, after the end of the program does not try to catch up. In addition, we do not lose weight blindly, but by consciously choosing products and a regimen, this knowledge will be permanently fixed and will help ourselves without refusing to control weight in anything.

But is it, you ask in disbelief, there are diets in the world that really combine all of the above?
Yes, I declare with all responsibility! There are also one of them I can teach you.

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The biggest mistake that almost all people make is this: if we want to get something from another or encourage him to do what we need, we begin to tell him why we want it and how important it is for us. .

Do we really think that the argument: “I want it!” enough for the other person to drop everything and start fulfilling our desires? Why, exactly, should he do this? Especially if he also has desires, and they may not coincide with ours at all.

Without noticing it, we follow the absurd logic, according to which "if I want, then you owe me." And we get offended, angry, angry when this logic does not work. And it shouldn't work, because it's absurd!

Very often, parents try to get something from their children in such an absolutely ineffective way. For example, a mother says to a child: “You must eat porridge!” The child does not want porridge, and then the mother begins to force him to eat, forcing him to do so by swearing or intimidating him. The child is even more naughty, and as a result, the mother blames him for disobedience, for being "bad", etc.

But if a small helpless child can still be forced to do something by force (although thus creating inevitable psychological problems for him in the future), then with adults this “number” most often does not work at all.

This does not mean at all that we should give up our intentions towards other people and generally stop wanting anything from them. A mother who loves her child cannot simply tell him: “If you don’t want it, don’t eat it,” and leave the child hungry. But she can try to find a different approach to him. Namely, instead of explaining to him that he should eat porridge (because she wants to!), Mom can think about what, in fact, the child himself wants. And use his (and not your) desires as an incentive to eat.

Maybe he wants to grow up quickly? Or maybe he wants to become the strongest in the yard, and fight back the neighbor's boy - a notorious fighter? And if this is a girl, maybe she dreams of becoming an adult and beautiful sooner? A smart mother will tell the child that this very “hateful” porridge will help him in this. And also various other dishes that are simply necessary for the child to achieve his (and not mother's!) goals.

Thus, the absurd logic (“I want - therefore you must”) will be replaced by normal, correct and effective logic: "If you want, then you must".

This logic is effective both in relation to children and adults and works flawlessly in any situation.

The point is to awaken in the other person a voluntary desire to do what you want him to do. So that it becomes really his own desire.

If he does not have his own motive, interest and desire to do what you want him to do, he will not do it, unless you start forcing him, putting pressure on him. But this is already an uncivilized way of communication, incompatible with good relations between people.

There is only one way under heaven to convince someone to do something. Have you ever thought about this? Yes, the only way is to make the other person want to do it.

Remember: there is no other way.

Of course, you can make a person "want" to give you a watch by poking a revolver in the ribs. You can force an employee into a one-time act of obedience - before you turn your back on them - by threatening to fire them.

You can force the child to do what you want with a belt or threat.

But these crude methods have highly undesirable consequences.

The only way they can convince you to do anything is to offer you what you want.

Dale Carnegie. "How to Win Friends and Influence People"

Why, then, do we act according to an erroneous logic, trying to force others to fulfill our desires, instead of gently leading them to this, forming in them the corresponding motives, interests and desires? Because from childhood, this is exactly what they did to us, and we simply adopted the erroneous methods of communication learned from an early age.

And also because very often we do not realize that each of our actions in life was performed precisely because we wanted it. Often it seems to us that we acted under the influence of circumstances or pressure from other people. And we do not understand that without our desire, no one and nothing would make us lift a finger. And if we perform some action, it means that we somehow made such a choice ourselves. Even if circumstances or other people influenced us, it is still ours and only our choice. It is very important to realize this! Realizing that everything in your life is the result of your choice, you will feel like the master of your life, you will come out of the role of a victim and realize that you are free in your decisions and actions.

After that, you can give the right to such freedom to other people. And then you will no longer try to force them to do anything. You will find that it is much more beneficial to act gently, encouraging the person to act in his best interest rather than yours, and demonstrating his own benefit from the kind of action that you expect him to do.

And you will never demand from another person that he does for you something in which there is no benefit and no interest for him.

The following exercise will help you realize that every act of yours (even the one that seems to you to be done by someone else's will) has a positive motive - that is, by doing it, you wanted to get something good for yourself.

Accordingly, you realize that the other person will not do anything unless he sees something good for himself in this action.

2. WHAT WOMEN WANT What a woman wants, God wants. Therefore, God wants new clothes and married. Djavol ( [email protected]) The women themselves say that they know perfectly well what they want. They want love... but they don't need anything else. Like, they are so gentle and spiritual that everything