How to understand when communicating that a person is lying. What does gaze mean, direction of gaze, dilated and constricted pupils. Sideways glance, left, right, up, down, frequent blinking

People often and willingly hang noodles on other people's ears. In some cases, liars cause only irritation and rejection, in others - deceit can have serious consequences: in career, friendship, family. Not to mention that lying can pose a threat to human life. Determining a lie is not easy, but it is possible. To do this, you need to arm yourself with the knowledge that is outlined below. They will help bring the deceiver to clean water.

Fact . According to research, the average citizen resorts to a lie at least 3 times in 10 minutes of a conversation.

Signs of a lie

Any lie is psychological stress for every deceiver, no matter how skillful he may be. Like any stressful condition, a lie has its own signs and manifestations - these are reflexes that are difficult to control the mind. We will introduce you to the most obvious symptoms of deception, which will help you understand that you are lying or trying to hide the truth.

Fact . The main motives for lying are fear, shame, and the desire for gain.

How to spot a lie

1. You can understand that they are lying to you by looking

According to popular belief, a person's eyes darting from side to side during a lie. However, for the most part - it is a sign of great excitement or confusion, and you can worry even when a person fears that no one will believe in his truth. Another thing is when the interlocutor tries his best to maintain eye contact, practically without looking away from the eyes opposite. This may indicate that a person lies consciously, trying to look confident, while trying to understand whether they believe in his lies or not.

2. You can determine a lie by the position of the pupils

According to the knowledge of neurolinguistics, if the interlocutor's eyes rush to the left during speech, this indicates that he is extracting information from his memory, that is, something. If to the right, he is engaged in the creation of images, in other words, he composes, imagines or represents. ( For lefties, it's the other way around.). It is logical to assume that during a lie, the pupils will rush to the right, because for this you need to resort to your imagination. Basically, this is how it is, but there are also nuances.


Fact . Women recognize lies better than men. Men lie more than women.

Lies leave an imprint on the body

1. A clear sign that a person’s thoughts are the opposite of what he says is one-way movements, that is, when one side of the body, whether it be a shoulder, arm or leg, is much more active than the other. Often, it is the twitching of only one shoulder that is the accompanying element of the lie.

2. If during a conversation, the interlocutor takes a step back - most likely he does not believe in what he is trying to convince others.

3. Uncertainty in one's words and the untruthfulness of what was said betrays a constrained, tense position of the torso. Even if the liar tries to pretend to be a relaxed and calm person, his body will still be tense and be in one, often uncomfortable, position.

Fact . The telephone is the most common instrument of deception. People lie on the phone 37% of the time, during face-to-face conversations 27%, online messages 21%, and emails 14%.

Facial expressions of lies

1. Pay attention to the corners of the lips - even if the mouth is under control, it is very difficult to subordinate this part to your will. So, for example, the corners of the lips tremble or tighten when a person has managed to fool someone and he's glad it worked out.

2. A clear sign of untruth is a pursed lip- this is a hint of uncertainty in one's words or subconscious disagreement with what is being said. For example, if they answer your request for help - “I will definitely help”, then the pursed lip, meanwhile, says - it’s not worth counting.

3. If the interlocutor's facial expressions become asymmetrical, for example, the smile is only on one side, it says that the person is trying to hide true emotions by replacing them with a mask. If the lips smile, while the eyes remain serious, wrinkles do not form around them, know that he feigns joy or good nature, hiding your true feelings and intentions.

4. It is also worth noting that real, sincere surprise lasts no more than 5 seconds. If a person is surprised longer, then he is playing- he knew everything in advance and now strives to assure everyone that his surprise knows no bounds.

Fact . During a lie, a person, as a rule, experiences 3 main feelings: remorse, fear of exposure, and delight from a successful swindle.

Deception gestures

1. Touches on the neck indicate that a person is either lying or very nervous. And when the palm completely clasps the throat, this indicates that the liar is trying to hold back the words from coming out, being afraid to let it out.

2. An eloquent gesture is and finger on lips. Thus, the subconscious mind tries to prevent the lies from coming out, as if warning: be silent, do not say a word.

3. Friction or earlobes suggests that the person does not want to give himself away. And in general, the more hands touch a face during a conversation, the more likely it is that this face belongs to an insincere person.

4. Stroking yourself with your fingers speaks of the deceiver's subconscious attempt to calm himself and cheer himself up, fearing that he will not be believed.

5. A truthful narrator, as a rule, does not hesitate to gesticulate, complementing and enhancing the effect of what was said. The liar, on the contrary, gestures to a minimum, or absent altogether.

Fact .There is such a thing as pathological liars. These people have a strong need for deception, as well as dependence on it. What distinguishes them from ordinary liars is that they themselves begin to believe in their own lies.

Deceiver's speech

1. Using lies in his speech, a person subconsciously experiences feelings of guilt and anxiety, therefore if you change the topic of conversation, the liar will suddenly become happier and more relaxed. Although in some cases this may indicate that the previous topic was simply unpleasant for him.

2. In order it takes time to compose a believable lie, especially if you take the liar by surprise. To win extra minutes the sly one can resort to several tricks:

  • pretend not to hear What-what, one more time?»);
  • ask rhetorical questions What do you mean, where did all the jam go?»);
  • repeat your own words I know you ate all the jam.” “Did you eat all the jam? No, I didn't eat jam.»);
  • too often use introductory turns: (" God sees I didn't touch the jam jar. tell the truth, I, to put it mildly not a fan of sweets. In general, to be honest– I hate cherry jam”);
  • make pauses in sentences longer than they should be.

3. A large number of details and unnecessary details is a clear sign of untruth. Most likely, the liar is trying to demonstrate to you that he is clear in the palm of his hand, and does not intend to hide anything. That's why he puts out tons of useless information.

4. If you have doubts and want to understand if the story of the interlocutor is true, ask to retell it in reverse order. If the interlocutor is not lying, it will not be difficult to do this. Otherwise, he will have problems, and he will get confused: how and in what sequence the nonsense was laid out.

This knowledge will help you identify lies and understand in time that they are trying to deceive you.. However, in the end, we would like to draw attention to one important point: none of the above signs can serve as a 100% manifestation of lies addressed to you. Especially if you do not take into account the overall picture of what is happening and, not taking into account the characteristics of the character of a single person. The mentioned signs must be taken in a complex manner and correlated one to another.. They are an occasion to think and be wary, and not to brand a liar on a person.

With rare exceptions, each of us feels the need for communication, this is how a person works.

People share information with each other, jointly develop new ideas, meet and start relationships, are charged with positive and negative emotions - all this happens through communication.

Due to the exceptional importance of this process in all areas of life, we are often very hurt when we are lied to, but we do not notice it. Probably, to learn to recognize lies, so much so that for sure and always - the blue dream of mankind. Unfortunately, this is hardly possible, if only because often a person cannot distinguish even his own inventions from reality.

However, in order to suspect something was wrong and keep your “ears open”, even special devices are not required - it is enough during a conversation to pay attention to some indirect signs that your interlocutor involuntarily manifests, which can confirm or refute his words.

Lies, as a rule, are inconvenient for those who invent them. He feels discomfort, nervousness, fear that he can be exposed, even when it comes to something completely harmless. And when we are talking about something serious that can affect a person’s future life, in the event that the truth is revealed, then only a person with good endurance can behave correctly at such moments. But even in this case, if you know what to look for, you can find clear signs that indicate a person’s nervousness, as well as in which places of his stories and answers it manifests itself most sharply. Let's look at these signs.



Speech

In our communication, words directly account for 20-40% of the transmitted information, that is, less than half. Everything else is non-verbal (that is, non-verbal) information. The methods of its transmission are studied by such a section of linguistics as paralinguistics.

pauses- the most common sign of deception. They can be either too long or frequent. The presence of interjections - “um”, “well”, “uh” - also indicates that you may be being told a lie or something is being left out.

Raising the tone is a likely sign. Speech becomes louder and faster, a person experiences excitement. The reasons can be different - anger, delight, fear. But it could also be a lie.

Useless Facts. To make the story convincing, people try to saturate their fictional story with real events that are far from the subject of the conversation. For example, if you want to find out in detail about the people with whom your interlocutor met, what, for example, he needs to hide, then you will hear detailed micro stories about how wonderful the food was, the magnificent weather, what emotions were caused by certain everyday events, and people can only be said in passing. In a word, they will clearly draw a vast background for you, and in the center of the picture they will only sketch a blurry sketch.

Answer in the style of "guess yourself". It is necessary to ensure that the person answers directly, while it is not necessary to correct him and thereby put pressure on him. Remember that a question asked for a question is only an indirect answer.
If you ask, "Did you watch TV today?" and they say, "You know I couldn't do that?" - then you need to understand that this is a departure from a direct answer. Although it should be noted that people can answer this way only because they are offended by distrust of themselves and do not consider it necessary to answer directly.
Another option for an indirect response is when you are also asked to think out what was said on your own, but not directly spoken, for example, to the question "Are you sure you can fix it?" the phrase “Friends consider me an excellent master!” may follow. From it we can conclude that a person is not confident in his abilities, but he does not want to admit it either.

As you asked, so they answered you. Frequent and precise use of phrases from your question, as well as the complete repetition of the question before the person begins to answer, may indicate insincerity. In such situations, your interlocutor does not have time to think of what to answer, so he uses your own words or takes time before answering in order to have time to construct a plausible version.

Joke instead of an answer. Pay attention to the "funny" answers. You asked, you were wittily answered, you appreciated, laughed and moved on to another question, or did not bother this funny interlocutor anymore - a common situation. But you need to think, if a person often laughs off, instead of answering directly, perhaps he does it intentionally.

Speech at different speeds. Frequent coughing, attempts to clear the throat, or a sudden change in speech from normal to faster or slower may mean that the person is nervous, possibly lying. This is also indicated by any objectively unconditioned change in the voice, tone of the speaker.

If in the course of the story a person goes back along the story and supplements it with something: clarifies, says that he forgot to mention something, adds details, then this indicates a sincere story. It is difficult to remember a story invented on the go, add it in the middle, and then continue to think it out from the end - there is a high probability of going astray and getting confused



Body

First of all, you should pay attention to the posture of the interlocutor.

Well-known "closed poses" - crossed arms and legs. They say at least that the interlocutor is not very inclined to communicate with you. The person may look relaxed, but attempts to hide their hands, fold them over their chest, or lock them on their knees give them away. It is not a fact that he is lying to you - but he clearly wants to hide something from you, not to let it out.

It happens that a liar shrinks, as if trying to take up as little space as possible.

Another posture: if a person takes a step back during a conversation, most likely, he himself does not believe in what he is telling you.

There are "slips of the tongue", a kind of non-verbal leakage of information. Not every liar allows them, but if they happen, this is a reliable sign of his intentions.

If a person touches his face with his hands: scratches his nose, covers his mouth, then these are signs that he subconsciously closes himself from you, puts up a barrier between you.

The most common gestures of deception:

Involuntary shrug speaks of indifference, that a person does not care. And if he pulls with one shoulder, it means that he is lying with a very high degree of probability.

Eye rubbing. When a child does not want to look at something, he closes his eyes with his hands. An adult has this gesture transforms into eye rubbing. Thus, the brain tries to block something unpleasant for us (deception, doubt, or an unpleasant sight).
In men, this is a more pronounced gesture - they rub their eyes, as if they had a speck in their eye.
In women, this gesture is less noticeable and may well pass for correcting makeup, since ladies usually gently rub their lower eyelids with their fingers.
But even here you should be careful - all of a sudden, a mote or an eyelash really hit!

P touch to the nose (often with a quick, elusive movement) is also a sign of a lie. This gesture is called the "Pinocchio symptom"
Remember the tale about Pinocchio, where his nose began to grow rapidly when he was lying? In fact, physically this process really happens - special catelochamin substances are released in the body, which lead to irritation of the nasal mucosa, pressure also increases, blood flow increases and the nose really increases a little. But this is not noticeable, but it is noticeable how your interlocutor begins to reach for his nose and scratch it.
Covering your mouth with your hand or coughing into a fist, according to psychologists, shows a desire to suppress the utterance of one's own false words, to prevent them from breaking out.
brushing imaginary fluff out of clothes. The interlocutor does not approve of what he heard. He doesn't want (or can't) say it out loud, but the gesture betrays his thoughts.
Collar pull.
Familiar gesture, right? As if it becomes stuffy and it is difficult for a person to breathe. Deceit leads to high blood pressure and increased sweating, especially if the deceiver is afraid of being caught in a lie.

Other gestures of deceit include

Rubbing the earlobe.
Let's get back to our monkeys! It's a "I can't hear anything" gesture. It is usually accompanied by a sideways glance. Variants of this gesture: rubbing the earlobe, scratching the neck behind the ear, picking (excuse me) in the ear or twisting it into a tube.

Neck scratching.
As a rule, people do this with the index finger of the hand they write with. On average, a person scratches his neck 5 times a day. This gesture means doubt. That is, if a person says something like “Yes, yes! I totally agree with you” and at the same time reaches out to scratch his neck, this means that in fact he does not agree and doubts.


Fingers in the mouth.
The most striking character with a finger in his mouth is Dr. Evil from the movie about Austin Powers. He almost always keeps his little finger near his mouth. It is an unconscious attempt by the person to return to a state of safety that is usually associated with infancy and sucking on the same nipple. An adult sucks on a cigar, pipe, eyeglasses, pen, or chews gum. Most mouth touches are associated with deceit, but this also indicates that a person needs approval. Maybe he's lying because he's afraid you won't like the truth.

Notice the gesture extended middle finger. He can simply lie on his knee or a person accidentally touches his face with it. This is a gesture of hostility and hidden aggression: the interlocutor seems to send you to hell.

It should also be noted if the interlocutor shifts from foot to foot or even takes a small step back. This indicates a desire to leave, to move away from you, so as not to give something away.
It is especially important to pay attention to backward movements when you are asking questions. If a responder's head jerks back or down- this, perhaps, is also an attempt to close.



Emotions

A person's behavior is very different depending on whether he is telling the truth or lying.

If a lie takes place, then the person's emotions will be much deeper and more sensual. Any lie implies the presence of a certain mask that a person puts on himself and builds an appropriate line of his behavior. Often, the "mask" and other emotions are mixed together. For example, a slight smile - a mask of pleasure, if this feeling is not actually experienced, is mixed with signs of fear, sadness, disgust or anger. In the case of sincere joy, our eyes will see not only a smile, but also the movement of the muscles located around the eyes.


bad reaction. Keep track of the emotions of the interlocutor as the conversation progresses. If a person is hiding something from you, then emotions can be expressed late, unusually long stay on the person’s face, and then suddenly disappear, appear before you finish the phrase.
This happens because the person is thinking hard about something of their own, does not maintain the thread of the conversation well, and demonstrates emotions that they do not actually experience.

Facial expressions that last 5-10 seconds are usually fake. Most sincere emotions appear on the face for only a few seconds. Otherwise, they will look like a mockery. For example, surprise that lasts for more than 5 seconds is a fake emotion.
In a sincere person, words, gestures and facial expressions are synchronized. If someone shouts: “How tired of you!”, And the angry facial expression appears only after the replica, the anger is most likely fake.

American psychologist Paul Ekman (Paul Ekman) studied facial expressions of people and counted only 46 independent facial movements. However, he found that in combination with each other, they can convey about 7,000 unique emotions! Interestingly, many of the muscles that move the face are not controlled by consciousness. This means that a fake smile will always, albeit slightly, differ from a real one.


Behavior in case of provocation

Increased breathing, heaving of the chest, frequent swallowing, perspiration protruding are signs of strong feelings. It is possible that you are lying. A blush is a sign of embarrassment, but you can also be embarrassed from shame for lying.

Do you like field hockey? If you try to abruptly change the subject on your part, the person who is telling a lie will take it with relief, support your initiative, because he understands that the less you talk to him, the less chance he has to “slip through” and give himself away. If the interlocutor is sincere, then his natural reaction will be a misunderstanding of the reason for changing the topic, dissatisfaction that his story was not heard to the end. He will try to return to the topic of conversation.

I don't like you guys... If you have doubts about the veracity of the words of the interlocutor, MirSovetov advises to implicitly show that you do not believe the story of the interlocutor: after his answer to the next question, pause, look intently, with distrust. If they are not honest with you, it will cause embarrassment, insecurity. If a person tells the truth, then often he begins to get annoyed, stare at you. The following changes can be noted in it: embarrassment disappears, lips tighten, eyebrows frown.


eye movements

It is rightly said that the eyes are the window to the soul. Man is designed in such a way that the eyes are actively involved in the process of reflection.

They take a position depending on which area of ​​the brain is involved at the moment. Knowing this, we can assume what the brain is doing at one moment or another of the dialogue: inventing something new or processing real information.

If a person confidently wants to defend his lie and lies deliberately, he tries to maintain eye contact. He looks deep into his eyes. This is to know if you believe his lies.

And when a person is caught unawares and wants to lie so that everyone forgets about it, he immediately switches your attention: he goes to another room supposedly on business or starts tying his shoes, sorting through papers and muttering something under his breath ...

However, sometimes a person looks into the eyes in the hope of seeing support. He may not lie, but be very unsure of his rightness.

Watch out for blinking. When they lie, they often blink involuntarily, because for many, a lie is still. But, in addition, increased blinking can mean that the subject of conversation is unpleasant for him, causes pain. And the less often a person blinks, the happier he is at this moment.

When asking a question, pay attention to the movement of the eyes at the moment when the person answers. When a person is really trying to remember all the details and tell you, they look to the right. When a person invents, the gaze rushes to the left.

Usually when a person remembers (invents) he looks not just to the side, but down (right down, left down)

See neurolinguistic psychologists chart for what eye movements indicate.

Let's imagine that in the picture - the face of your interlocutor. Further, in order to avoid confusion, we will agree to write about you when you look at the “face of the interlocutor”, and in brackets there will be indications regarding the face itself depicted in the diagram

You see that the eyes of the interlocutor

  • Watching to your left and up(the person looks to the upper right corner), this indicates the construction of the picture.
  • Right and up from you(he has it in the upper left corner) - an appeal to visual memory.
  • Watching to the left(for the interlocutor, the right side) - comes up with a sound,
  • right(for him, the left side) - tries to remember what he heard.
  • Eyes bottom and left(lower right corner) - checking sensations and feelings.
  • Down and right(lower left corner) - reflects on the situation, talks to himself.
  • If look straight, then the person perceives the information.

For example, if you asked your boss about the date of the salary, and, while answering, he looked down and to the right relative to you, then he thought about it for the first time and forms the answer on the fly, reflects. And if just to the right, then he says what he heard before from his superiors.

Pay attention to this nuance: if you are talking to a left-handed person, then the left and right sides are mirror opposite. This is also true for right-handed people, in whom the left hemisphere, nevertheless, prevails over the right, for example, the so-called. overtrained left-handers.

There is an opinion that a direct eye-to-eye gaze symbolizes the sincerity of a person, but if the eyes are averted, then they say that someone is “hiding” his eyes and hiding something. In reality, it is not. In the course of a conversation, it is often necessary to break eye contact in order to focus on some thought, to think, to remember.
Based on materials bskltd.ru, mirsovetov.ru


Interesting fact:

Scientists at the State University of New York at Buffalo have developed a high-tech polygraph. Based on eye movements, it recognizes when a person is telling the truth and when a lie. According to the researchers, their system is able to detect a false statement with an accuracy of more than 80%.

The new system has been tested on volunteers. Before the experiment began, they were asked to guess if they stole a check that was written to a political party they did not support. An interrogator sat next to the subjects, who first asked questions that were not related to the topic, and then directly asked about "theft".

At this time, the program, using webcams, tracked the violation of the trajectory of eye movement, the speed of blinking, and the frequency with which the participants in the experiment shifted their eyes. As a result, the system was able to successfully detect lies in 82.2% of cases, while for experienced investigators this ratio was about 60%.

How to recognize lies by facial expressions and gestures:

It should be noted that in nature there are no two identical personalities, each person is individual in his own way, so there is no universal set of signals that detect lies. Therefore, all signs must be carefully analyzed in the context of the current situation, and pay attention to both voice and emotions, and not to forget about body movements. The tongue can lie, but the body cannot lie.

However, be careful and do not jump to conclusions, no matter how insightful people you are, because even Sherlock Holmes once suspected the girl of a terrible crime, mistaking her awkward gesture for an attempt to hide the truth. Later it turned out that the girl was just embarrassed about her unpowdered nose: o).

And what do you think,

Where does a person look when he lies? How can the direction of gaze indicate that a person is lying? These two questions were previously asked to us by our readers in the comments on the site.

The short answer to these questions is, "to a certain extent." It's not as easy as recent TV shows or movies make it out to be. There, the detective is able to determine whether a person is lying, only on the basis of whether he is looking to the right or to the left when he speaks. In fact, it would be foolish to jump to such quick conclusions without further investigation... but a certain technique can achieve something.

So…read, think about it, and test it out with your friends and acquaintances to see for yourself how reliable it is.

The look shows the strength of the soul.
Paulo Coelho. Alchemist.


Visual Evaluation Keys - "Lying Eyes"

To the best of our knowledge, the term Visual Evaluation Keys was first used by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in their book Frogs into Princes: Neuro Linguistic Programming. Based on their own experience, they found the following:

When a "normally organized" (non-left-handed) person is asked a question, they direct their gaze in one of six directions, as viewed from the side of the questioner looking at him:

1. Up and left

Indicates visually generated images (VS)


If someone is asked to imagine a "purple buffalo," while the person is thinking about the question, imagining a "visually created" purple buffalo in their mind, their eyes will turn in that direction.

2. Up and right

Indicates visually recalled images (VV)


If you ask a person "what color was the first house you lived in?", their eyes will turn in that direction when they think about the question, "visually remembering" the color of their childhood home.

3. Left

Indicates auditory generated images (SS)


If someone is asked to imagine the highest sound possible, when he thinks about the question, "creating an auditory image" of a sound that he has never heard, his gases will turn in that direction.

4. Right

Indicates auditory recall images (CB)


If you ask a person to remember what his mother's voice sounds like, then when he thinks about the question, trying to remember the sound, his eyes will turn in that direction.

5. Down and left

If you ask someone the question "Can you remember the smell of a fire?", then his eyes will turn in this direction when he thinks about the question, remembering the smell, sensation or taste.

6. Down and right

Indicates own dialogue (Y)


In this direction, a person's eyes turn so when he "talks to himself."

How can gaze information be used to detect lies?

Example: Let's say your child asks for cookies, and you ask him: "Did your mother allow it?". The child replies: "Mom said ... you can," but at the same time looks to the left. This may indicate that he is coming up with an answer, as his eyes show "creating an image or sound".
Looking to the right will indicate the "remembering" of a voice or image, and then, he is probably telling the truth.

Final remarks

  • Looking straight ahead, or eyes that are not focused or moving, are also considered a sign of visual judgment.
  • Usually, a left-handed person will demonstrate the opposite sense of the direction of the eyes.
  • As with other signs of lying, you must first find out and understand the basis of a person's behavior before concluding that he is lying, based on the direction of his gaze.

Many critics believe that all of the above is just nonsense. However, practice shows that there is something in this. But who's stopping you from figuring it out on your own?
It is enough to make a list of questions, like the ones above, and offer them to friends and relatives, who will play the role of test subjects. And then observe the movements of their eyes and record the results.

Usually our eyes "follow" our thoughts, and sometimes, just by looking into our eyes, other people can understand what we are thinking about. Surely you will agree that reading the thoughts of another person in his eyes is a very useful skill? Thanks to this, everyone will be able to understand whether they are being deceived or determine whether your interlocutor is interested in what you are telling him about.
This useful skill is perfectly mastered by professional poker players...

"Eyes to eyes". Such contact with the interlocutor indicates that he is very interested in talking with you. Prolonged eye contact may indicate that the person is scared and/or doesn't trust you. Brief eye contact - the person is worried and/or not interested in talking to you. And the complete lack of eye contact indicates the complete indifference of your interlocutor to your conversation.


The man looks up. Raised eyes are a sign of contempt, sarcasm or irritation directed at you. In most cases, such a "gesture" means a manifestation of condescension.


If a person looks in the upper right corner, he visually imagines a picture stored in memory. Ask someone to describe the appearance of a person, and your interlocutor will certainly raise his eyes up and look to the right.


If a person looks away to the upper left corner, this indicates that he is visually trying to imagine something. When we try to use our imagination to visually "draw" some kind of picture, we raise our eyes up and look to the left.


If your interlocutor looks to the right, it means that he is trying to remember something. Try to ask someone to remember the melody of the song, and the person will definitely glance to the right.


Looking to the left, people make up sounds. When a person imagines a sound or composes a new melody, he looks to the left. Ask someone to imagine the sound of a car horn underwater and they will invariably look to the left.


If your interlocutor lowers his eyes and looks to the right, this person is conducting a so-called "internal" dialogue with himself. Your interlocutor may be pondering something you said, or may be contemplating what to say next.


If a person lowers his eyes down and looks to the left, he thinks about his impression received from something. Ask the interlocutor how he feels on his birthday, and before answering you, the person lowers his eyes and looks to the left.


By lowering our eyes, we show that we do not feel very comfortable or even embarrassed. Often, if a person is shy or does not want to talk, he lowers his eyes. In Asian culture, not looking a person in the eye, looking down when talking to an interlocutor is the norm.

These "rules" are usually followed by all of us. But the left-hander does the opposite: the right-hander looks to the right, the left-hander looks to the left, and vice versa.
How to determine that you are lying?
There is no absolutely correct algorithm by which you can determine whether your interlocutor is lying or not. The best option is to ask a basic question like "what color is your car?". If a person raises his eyes and looks to the right (or to the left if he is left-handed), then he can be trusted. Thus, in the future you can understand whether they are deceiving you or not.
For example, when telling you about what happened in class, your friend looks to the right; talking about his holidays, he constantly raises his eyes up and glances to the right. Most likely, everything he said is true. But when he shares his impressions with you about a beautiful girl he met the other day, and his eyes are fixed on the upper left corner, you can conclude that he is clearly "embellishing".
By learning to control his gaze, a person can make others believe him unconditionally. (How can you lie, looking a person straight in the eye?)

There are available ways to help determine whether the interlocutor is sincere or if he is telling an outright lie. Observing a certain person, physiognomists study his gestures, emotions, behavior, facial expressions and manner of speaking. The most reliable source of information is the eyes. It is they who are able to indicate that your opponent is trying to wishful thinking.

The eyes immediately give out the felt emotions: joy, fun, pain, fear or anxiety.

In society, lies are considered negative phenomena, we are taught from childhood that it is not good to lie, therefore, when people tell a lie, they often experience remorse, guilt and fear of being exposed. All emotions and feelings felt during the dialogue are instantly reflected in the eyes. Of course, there are professional liars who enjoy how cunningly they are able to “cast fog” on the interlocutor, but these are rare, so almost everyone can determine a lie at the everyday level.

How to understand by the eyes that a person is lying?

You can use a technique that determines the eye access key (if the person is right-handed), which will give us information about the processes occurring in the brain.

View types:

  • To the right and up - inventing a visual image (possibly cheating);
  • left and up - recollection of visual images;
  • sideways and to the left - auditory memory;
  • sideways and to the right - auditory construction (possibly a lie);
  • down and to the right - recollection of one's emotions and experiences;
  • down and to the left - tight deliberate control of emotions and one's speech (possibly a lie).

It turns out, a classic false look that describes such a trajectory:

  • a person looks up and to the left - extracting from his memory visual images on which he will build his deception;
  • looks up and to the right - thinks out what and how to say better;
  • looks down and to the left - reproduces a lie, controlling the spoken words.

If your interlocutor is left-handed, the views can be inverted in the opposite way.

As you know, a liar often experiences feelings of guilt and shame, so he can hide his emotions by averting his eyes, or by lowering his head down. But it happens that a person understands that he is being diagnosed with a lie, so during the conversation he deliberately tries not to look away, constantly maintaining contact with the interlocutor.

How to determine by the eyes that a person is lying?

A lot depends on who your interlocutor is. If this is a man, it will be easier to determine a lie, since for the most part the representatives of the stronger sex do not know how to lie at all. For example, the wife caught her missus in treason. How will he behave? 70% of men will actively refuse, while their eyes will run from side to side, and the pupils will expand due to the rapid increase in the amount of adrenaline in the blood. In this case, the spouse will try to refute the situation and change the subject by telling, for example, a funny anecdote. But in his eyes there will be no place for fun, emotional excitement will be displayed with a worried, anxious look, which will be difficult to hide. These signs are not absolutely accurate determinants of men's lies, and can often mean a lot of excitement because no one believes him.

Women by their nature are more prone to lies, as they often like to exaggerate and fantasize. When trying to convict his missus of the same betrayal, the man will come across an astonished, calm look, which, however, can also mean that the spouse is really faithful to you. Another thing is if the lady tries to maintain constant eye contact, looking into her eyes and trying not to look away. This may mean a conscious deliberate lie. At the same time, the woman tries to be confident, by all means convincing the interlocutor of the veracity of her words.

The eyes are truly the "mirror of the soul", looking into it correctly, you can find out whether a person is deceiving or he is telling the absolute truth.

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